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10 Tips to
Get Over Your Ex As Quickly As Possible
John Hooper
Getting over your
ex is something that most of us have to do at some point in our life.
Some people more than others. When the ex means a divorce in involved
then the break up is all the more harder.
It is said that
time is a great healer and that is true, but also taking action is
vital. Just what action should you take?
Here is some
practical advice to deal with life after a break up, relationship break
down or divorce.
1. Make a clean
break. As tempting as it can be, if you are still in love with your EX,
and they don't reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you're
better off making a clean break. This is true every time. Ex lover
rarely make good friends after a break up.
2. Delete all
telephone numbers, email address and the like that contain your ex’s
details. Keeping temptation at bay is vital.
3. Clear out as
many personal items as you can. Obviously keeping practical stuff is
important, but, if you’re using your ex’s left behind items to remember
them, then that’s no good. Clear them out as soon as possible.
4. Treat yourself.
Make sure you get used to enjoying yourself without your ex partner.
Prove to yourself, your ex and others that you can smile again in spite
of the circumstances. A divorce doesn’t mean you can’t laugh a lot.
5. Let your
frustrations, anger and bitterness come out. Write down your feeling or
get some counseling. Even if it’s just a friend who will listen to you
for a while. Blow off steam – it’s natural.
6. Cleanse your
current situation by buying new things for the house. New bedding and
kitchen utensils are something you use every day. Get new items. Your
life is still going to go on so distance yourself from the things you
used with your ex. It will work wonders for you.
7. Give yourself
time to heal. You don’t need to rush into a new relationship until your
ready. Advice given to me as I was going through my divorce was to
‘clear the decks emotionally.’ Superb advice, you don’t need to rebound
till its right for you.
8. Eliminate any
negative self-talk. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself after a break
up. It can help you only for a very short while at the beginning. If you
keep talking yourself down then you’ll find it harder to move on when
the time is right for you.
9. Take charge of
your life again. Make goals. Set yourself challenges. Maybe you always
wanted to abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga could be
right for you. The world is your oyster.
10. Take comfort
in the fact that it does get better each day. Say to yourself ‘every day
in every way I’m getting better and better and better.’ It’s true and
most people who have been divorced will tell you that suddenly one day
you realize that the rest of your life can easily be the best of your
life.
About
The Author
John
Hooper has been through a divorce and has since become an authorized,
fully trained and certified counselor. His advice has helped many
hundreds of individuals and couples get over difficult times in their
lives. John advice is simple to understand and implement. John is an
author and writes for the popular relationship advice web site
www.getoverher.info.
Info@itseasyto.getoverher.info
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