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How to Have a Beautiful Life in a
Mad Dash Society
Lance Ong
When you go out, look at
the people around you. Don't they look like they're in a hurry to get
somewhere? When you ask your friends out for a gathering, do you often
get, "Sorry, I've got an appointment, or I've a meeting on that day"?
Many people are chronically busy nowadays. They all have the compulsion
to be successful as fast as possible. And to achieve that, they figure
they have to compress five years of work into one, by moving five times
faster! So they rush developing a hard-nosed edge, sacrificing personal
time and relationships, to get as much done as they can. But despite
their earnest and wholehearted attempt to be successful, they often
waste their effort because they lose their sense of direction focusing
on the trees, but failing to notice the forest they end up running in
circles. If you don't occasionally stop running and look up at the
stars, how will you know which way is North? (Don't tell me you have a
compass.) In real terms, this means you have to set some time everyday
to stop, and reflect.
· What do I value in life?
· What does success mean to me?
· Has what I've done today brought me closer to my life's goal?
· How do I get from where I am, to where I want to be?
Yes, these questions require you to think deep; do some soul-searching.
But when you have the answers, your mind will be clear. It's like
driving a car with a clean windscreen... you can see where you’re going!
I suggest you clean your windscreen every night by taking time to
reflect. That way, your VISION will be as sharp as can be. Everyone
needs a Vision that vivid mental image of what you'd like to Be, Do,
and Have in life. Without it, we can't see which way we're headed. And
the only way to develop it is to pause, reflect, think deep, and search
your soul.
*The Love of Having*
Have you heard of Retail Therapy? Women love it. It's the idea that you
can go shopping, buy something you like, and it will make you feel good
about yourself. In the Be-Do-Have model, buying stuff is obviously in
the HAVING stage. People subconsciously feel that having more stuff,
will make them become who they want to be (Have>>Be). But the sad part
is, only the reverse is true. Being who you want to be, will lead you to
having what such a person has (Be>>Do>>Have).
Many people are using the Retail Therapy model to feel successful. They
scamper to earn as much money as they can, then they splurge it on a
lavish lifestyle fast car, high-class dining, luxurious apartment, hot
nightspots, and exotic traveling. All these luxuries and status symbols
are suppose to help them BE somebody... But unless they already know who
they are on the inside, they often end up being nobody. Luxury rich, but
cash poor. These people have spent all their money on the toys. They
will never get rich because they have none left over to invest. We all
know that you MUST use the money you accumulate to buy assets which
produce residual income, if you are EVER going to achieve wealth and
financial freedom.
As we rush through our day, making money and spending lavishly, in a
race to be successful, perhaps we can realize that all it takes... is
one diagnosis of a critical illness, one lawsuit that bankrupts you, or
the death of a loved one, to shift your values in life. Suddenly the
stuff you have isn't important anymore... You’d gladly give it all away
to get back your health, to shelter your family, or to share more time
with your loved one.
All a dying man wants is to be well again. All a homeless man wants is
good food and a warm place to sleep at night. And all a grieving man
wants, is to have spent more time with his loved ones. Don't let this
happen to you. Slow down, pause, and reflect. Figure out what's
important to you in life. Then spend more time doing what's important,
rather than following the masses being busy everyday; chasing an
imaginary shopping list of what it takes to be successful. Remember…
better to walk slowly in the right direction, than to dash madly all
over the place.
Lance Ong is a
Licensed Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Master Practitioner
of Hypnotherapy and Timeline Therapy. He does life coaching to help
clients gain clarity of purpose, while removing mental blocks to
success. Learn Lance’s philosophy for better living at his Internet Blog
Site “Wisdom to Create a Beautiful World”
www.lancism.com
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