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Extreme Breakup
Recovery: Maximum Healing / Minimum Time
Jeanette Castelli, M.S.
If you are going
through the emotional rollercoaster of a breakup, feeling pain, anger
and depression, know this: You don’t need to suffer one more day over
your ex! It doesn’t matter how long you have suffered, it is time to
give up the pain and open up to a life free of pain.
You may feel that you
can’t stop clinging on to the past, but by clinging on to the past, you
are stopping life. Life is change; people come and go in your life, and
that is okay. As you grow, new people will come and some may leave. It
is all for your own good. The tendency to cling to the old and avoid
change is a common human trait. Unfortunately, it is also a
self-defeating and self-destructive habit, and completely unnecessary.
I have seen too much
suffering and pain from breakups. Friends, family members, clients and
acquaintances have gone through long periods of pain before getting over
their exes. It took them a long time before healing their hearts and
opening for love again. From the outside, it was obvious that their exes
were not the right people for them in the first place, or that their
relationship had become stagnant and even sour. Finally the breakup
occurred, followed by a long period of pain, suffering and ultimately a
slow healing. (A long, painful recovery can create long lasting negative
consequences in life, such as loss of a job, poor school performance,
depression, weight problems, and many more).
Years later, after
the breakup, I found them happier than ever, with a loved one. That new
person seemed to be almost a perfect match. Looking back into their
lives, they realized that unless they went through that breakup, finding
their true love would not have happened. So, why couldn’t they accept
that this breakup was for their own good in the first place? Why
couldn’t they get over it faster, rather than taking months or years to
do so? Why did they have to go through years or months of suffering? Why
did they waste so much precious time of their lives?
After a breakup,
everybody has two choices. One, leave the healing to time. Two, take
charge of the recovery process. The first method will take a long time,
pain and suffering before healing. It is slow and torturous. The second
method, taking control, will allow anyone to accelerate the healing
process, learn fast and move on, leaving space to find healthier and
more fulfilling love than ever before. You may need some guidance on the
steps for a fast and productive emotional healing. We have never been
taught how to heal emotionally, so when we go through an emotional
situation we are on our own. We need a method, a successfully proven
method for emotional healing.
The Extreme F.A.S.T.
method is an effective, simple and practical alternative to heal faster
than you thought possible. Three facts make this method a very exciting
proposition: First, it works; second, anyone can follow it and get
results; third, it creates permanent change in the negative pattern of
relationships.
I must warn you: the
Extreme F.A.S.T. method is not for people who want to suffer, cling on
to the past, or keep repeating the same patterns in their relationships.
This method is the ultimate healing tool: a quick, productive, effective
and confronting method to heal as fast as you can. The four steps are:
Face It, Accept It, See The Lessons and Take Yourself To A New Level.
After completing the first step you will be able to feel better already
and you will not be immobilized by the pain.
Do you think that
your pain has been there for too long, or is too deep for any method to
help you heal it? Think again. Deep pain is formed by “layers” of
memories that can be real or imagined, positive or negative. When you
tackle each layer, all the sources of pain will vanished. You will find
yourself free of pain, and free of any negative patterns that repeat
themselves into your life.
When you choose a
method to use and follow in your breakup or divorce recovery, you are
already on the path to healing. You have a choice; use your free will to
choose what is best for YOU.
It requires a lot of
courage and strength to want to heal fast. It would be easier to follow
the mass belief that after a breakup we will go through a lot of pain
and suffering for years, or at least months. However, you can make a
different choice. You can believe in your own capacity to heal fast, in
your own ability to get on with your life as soon as possible. You don’t
need to waste precious time suffering and dwelling on the past. You can
get the love you truly deserve. Your true partner is already on the way;
the more you suffer and prolong your healing, the more you will delay
his or her arrival.
Make
your choice: Time or The Extreme F.A.S.T. Method?
© 2004
Jeanette Castelli. Adapted from “Extreme Breakup Recovery” by Jeanette
Castelli, M.S. A do it yourself Workshop in a Book®. Features a
step-by-step guidance through the Extreme F.A.S.T. method: proven for
quick, permanent and productive recovery from any breakup or divorce.
Includes exercises, worksheets and affirmations. Book available at
bookstores and online retailers worldwide. ISBN: 0-9742061-3-X. For more
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