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Serious Tips to Help You Get Over
Your Ex
By Conversations with Tabs
Copyright Levnow.com
When someone becomes an
“ex” and I mean “EX” because you know fully well that you need to sever
all contact and remove this person from your life. Why? Because their
being around you is only going to hinder your progress, your ability to
get on with your life and your chance to meet someone else who is truly
going to love you. If you have such a person in your life today, then
these tips are for you.
Who qualifies as an “EX” in this case
That manipulative person who only uses you for their own selfish need.
That person that hurt you so bad that a few years later you still cringe
at the thought of the relationship or lack there of.
That married ex that will not live you alone.
That abusive person you mistakenly allowed into your life and are afraid
to piss off by saying “Stay the hell away from me.”
You can fill in the blanks if I missed one.
Who are you?
Are you the person that deserves better? Some of us are not sure we can
do better, but if your “EX” falls in one of the categories listed above:
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Are you still in love with your “EX”? Sorry to tell you are going to
have to be strong and walk away, when you look back you will know you
did the best thing.
Did you fall apart when the relationship was over? Some people are
strong enough to get right back on track and move on with their lives,
if you are reading this, then you are not one of them. However, this too
shall pass, you will get through this, you will meet the person that is
yours by Divine Right, and the happiness you will feel will remove every
ounce of pain you are going through right now.
Do you HATE your “EX” so much that the GOODNESS of your heart will not
let you wish evil on him/her? Goodness in your heart means there is room
for forgiveness and to giving more love to someone else.
Tips to Help You Get Through This
Let your feelings out in words. Get a sheet of paper and write
everything you need to say about what happened to you, why it happened
and how you feel about it. Let it rip, pour your heart, your soul, your
sadness, your self-pity and your hate out, but know that this is the
last time you will ever talk about that person to anyone (including
yourself). Then burn it, rip it into shreds throw it in the fire place
or the trash, not the one in your home but trash that you would never
cross your mind as a place you passed before (burning is still the
easiest just be careful, sane and sober when you do this.)
Stop thinking about what happened, good or bad. STOP THINKING ABOUT THIS
PERSON. How do you do that? With an effective affirmation, a prayer,
words or a picture depicting the true love you desire. Create an
affirmation, make it simple, short, long or complicated to the point
that you forget the reason you were affirming in the first place, it
does not matter, all that matters is that you are not thinking about
your “EX”. The mind plays tricks on us, it wonders and does not always
help us think about what is best for us.
Why do I say it is important to stop thinking about your “EX”? Three
words the Law of Attraction: You attract into your life that which you
dwell on with emotions. If you keep thinking about your “EX” he or she
will remain in your life.
So get yourself a powerful affirmation, one you will remember at the
drop of a hat, whenever you think about your “EX” immediately start to
repeat the affirmation. It simply means you are substituting a negative
thought with something positive. Do this every time you are compelled to
think about your “EX.”
Learn the true power of forgiveness. You are going to have to forgive
this person. I know you are thinking “What the H…?” but if you don’t,
you will not move forward and you will only be hurting yourself. This
person has already taken enough from you, why give him or her another
iota of your life? Not forgiving and getting on with your life will do
more harm to you mentally, physically and spiritually.
Get your ducks in a row, set yourself up for success. Nothing spells “I
am over you” more than your success. Get on that workout and healthy
eating regimen you have been threatening yourself to go on. You have to
take care of yourself, be healthy and reduce stress. Bust your behind to
get that job promotion you know will keep you adequately occupied and
rearing to go. Travel, go to Paris, nothing spells I am okay like a long
European vacation, if you live in Europe go somewhere else. If your “EX”
is French, speaks French or looks French, then go to Africa or
Australia, you get the picture. But don’t wallow in self pity, it is a
slippery slop to depression, however, if you feel yourself slipping, get
help. There are lots of great books, websites and professionals out
there that can help you get through this moment.
The hurt of heartbreak is real, the person that coined the phrase broken
heart meant it literarily. Yes, you feel pain, but is thinking about the
source of your pain is not going to help it mend. My favorite quote by
Albert Einstein is his definition of insantity it goes, “Insanity: doing
the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
People change and people should get second chances, but why would you
want to put yourself through that again with the same person? “Fool me
once shame on you fool me twice? Not now that I know better.”
You have to get on with your life. Don’t waste anymore time in the past,
set goals, make plans, live, and one morning you will wake up and find
that you have gotten over your “EX”.
Good Luck
By Tabs Copyright
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