Relationship Guidelines

Posted on December 5, 2006

Relationships, family, friends and lovers all require work. However, if you go into a relationship equipped with Relationship Guidelines you will emerge victorious. Relationship Guidelines help you better understand the people you love and strangers you meet.

Relationship Guidelines:
One: Everyone is an individual and they are entitled to their own opinions, attitude and life’s goals and most of the time this has nothing to do with you. You need to learn to be your own person that way you will not be affected by the moods, behaviors and goals of others.

Two: You cannot change another person, no matter how much better you think their life would be if they changed. Sometimes you actually have to watch a train wreck, as sad as that sounds there are just some people out there that will not listen to reason. In most of these cases, there is absolutely nothing you can say to make a person change. All you can do is to send them blessings and hope that they become aware and do what is best.

Three: If you want people around you to treat you differently you first have to change the way you behave. This is the second part of Guideline Number Two; this is the part you can actually do something about. If you want people to change the way they treat you, you need to change the way you see yourself. The results are instantaneous and the moment you start treating yourself and behaving differently, you will start to notice the difference in people. You can do this by visualizing how you want to be treated, see who you have to be to elicit those reactions in your minds eye and start working on becoming that person. Remember you are the only one that needs to change.

Four: You can walk away from any relationship and they can walk away from you. If the relationship is not working for you, you can always walk away. Not every person you deem worthy of having some kind of relationship with is worthy of that honor. It is important that you pick your friends carefully. Even in an open relationship you should set boundaries, when you set boundaries you know when someone crosses a line. The same applies to the other member of this relationship: remember it is a two-way street.

Five: No one owes you anything; most people do things for you because they love you, don’t take them for granted. It is easy to take the people that care for you for granted because they keep giving and given, but you have to realize that at some point enough is enough the giver will start to resent your abuse of the relationship. At some point it become the case of “the straw that broke the camels back,” they will stop and they are free to walk away from you and your drama.

Just a heads up, no one knows what you look for in a relationship better than you. If you read guideline number one, you know that you are an individual and you can form your own opinions about relationships.

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Levnow Self-Help Tools » Serious Tips to Help You Get Over Your Ex on December 7th, 2006 10:33 am

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