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Starting Over - Advice for Creating a New Life

Posted on March 30, 2007
Filed Under Forgiveness, Goals, Motivation, Personal Development, Plans, Self Improvement, Self-Help Tools |

Earlier this year, I woke up one morning and the person I used to be was gone, Poof! It felt strange for a few hours because I didn’t know what was happening. All I knew was something had changed and it was big. I had been working on this change for years, wishing, waiting, wanting then one day it happened. I had thought it would be a gradual occurrence or perhaps it was because I woke up and everything that was important to the person I used to be no longer held true.

I was ecstatic, empowered and ready to face the world. The only thing was who was this person I was going to be living next few days, months or years of my life? I still had the home, cloths, hair of the person I used to be, where did I start? You see, when you wake up one morning a new person, you are still living the life of person you used to be, but with a little planning the transition will not be as jarring, scary or hard as it could be.

Anyone that knows me intimately knows I have always wanted a clean slate (Tabular Rasa) my favorite words. I would tell you though a clean slate means exactly that, you will be starting from scratch, which in some cases means losing everything, just a cautionary note.

So you really have to be careful what you wish for, but, on the other end, when you get to the light at the end of that long dark tunnel, your life changes, nothing is as important as it used to be, you become an observer. It is almost like intuitively knowing the outcome before you act. It is knowing the outcome of other people’s actions. It is seeing what people are really feeling or thinking by looking at their faces and reading between the lines. It is taking complete responsibility for your life and your actions because you know exactly what you did to create everything that exists in your life. This change might not mean material wealth will magically appear, but it is finding that peace of mind that set you on clean slate quest in the first place.

Walking around a new person trying to figure out the best way to move forward, I did not know writing a new script for one’s life would be such a challenge but like the law says, when it time to find the answers they will came to you, well I found a blog written by Steve Pavlina today talking about Purpose and Value, I thought that is a great place to start, figure out what you value and then create a purpose to match your values. You can never go wrong when you truly know and understand what you value. It is your way of creating a solid foundation for your new life. It is your guide and protection from the world. It is the confidence you need to move forward, the reason you act.

You live and learn, so if you find yourself on a journey to change your life and become someone better. Take it from someone who has been down that road there are a few things you need to do diligently before you wake up one morning a new person and here is my advice: Don’t just picture who you want to be or where you want to live there a little more you need to do. You need to know how you want to live, know how you want to move around this world, I am not talking about cars or shoes, but about walking through life without apologizing for who you are and with your head held high. You need to know what you value, find a purpose for your life, decide to make a difference and add value to the lives of others, so when you wake up that morning, and it will happen, you know exactly who you are.

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3 Responses to “Starting Over - Advice for Creating a New Life”

  1. Albert on April 1st, 2007 3:51 am

    Nice post. I agree that starting over is the best thing to do, but I find that the hardest part is letting go off the past – obviously bad memories, habits, and beliefs are so deep in us it will be hard to just let go.

  2. Tabs on April 1st, 2007 10:56 am

    Albert, you are right about the past being hard to let go of, this is where being vigilant comes in. You simply have to dismiss the thoughts and memories when they come and substitute them with more positive thoughts and memories.

    Thanks for you comment and take care,
    Tabs

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