3-Step Plan to Facing Your Fears

Posted on August 6, 2008

When I am afraid, I will master my fear.
-Phillip Pullman’s The Golden Compass

There is nothing to fear but fear itself.
-Franklin D. Roosevelt

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain
-Frank Herbert’s Dune

Why aren’t you living your ideal life?
It is time to face Your Fear and Get Your House in Order. What is holding you back? Are you bugged down by debt, bad relationships you will not face up too, your past mistakes or are you in such a rut that you cannot even begin to see a starting point? Well, that is what I am giving you here, a starting point. If fear is what is holding you back, then it is time to face that fear.

This stage of building a solid personal foundation, you are simply clearing the ground, we have not even started digging the hole to put stakes in the ground or pouring concrete into your foundation. So, the first thing we need to do is prepare the ground. Which means it is time to take a look at your life and figure what needs clearing out? It is time to clear out the excess mental, physical and emotional baggage. It is time to start to face the fear that is holding you back.

The Three-Step Plan to Facing Your Fears

List the Large Obstacles Currently Holding You Back
Write down the five big things that are seriously stopping you from changing your life now. First, I truly hope you do not have five but if you do have five or more, you simply have a bigger plot of land to clear. When I say “big things”, I am not talking about procrastination because procrastination is simply a dealing mechanism. It is simply a tool you use so you don’t have to face your fear. I am not talking about things like clearing clutter either; we are digging deeper than that, because all these things are “effects” we are looking for the “cause”. So, I am talking about a pending lawsuit, crippling debt, bad credit, bad relationships, illness: the big things. I realize that what might be big for you might not be for others but a fear is a fear.

Review Each Item on the List
Look at each item and take time out to think, “What is the worst that can happen?” Please do not write this part down. Just think it in your head for a quick minute (if you wan to know why check out Law of Attraction), the last thing you need is to have the “Universe” catch on to that little ditty. Here is the big, big thing you need to understand; the worst thing that can happen is the thing you are going to have to deal with now. Brace yourself, more often than not, is it not always that bad.

So, You Know the Worst That Can Happen Is, Now What?
You now need to figure out what you will do or what can happen to you in the worst-case scenario. Do you need to file bankruptcy, do you need to pull up your bootstraps and take the next two years to keep on top of your payments and fix your bad credit, do you need to start planning to leave that relationship safely, or do you need to face the judge. When you look at things this way, it does not seem as bad. Why? Because, these are all things you can put actionable steps to and take control of the issue. People survive bankruptcy, look at Donald Trump or even closer to home your neighbor down the road…

I don’t mean to downplay the issues here in any way, shape or form, but systems are set up to help you, you have to face your fear, accept whatever the results may be and look on the bright side, now you are in the drivers seat. As long as you can get out of the worst-case scenario in one piece, then you are a lot better than most. The point I am trying to make here is that facing your fear a lot of time is fear of the outcome, but if you come up with a solution to face the outcome then you have conquered your fear.

The worst-case scenario happening is rare. However, the rewards you gain from facing your fear far outweigh living in fear. What is worst is that you may end up realizing that your life may have been completely different if you had taken care of the problem a long time ago. A jail cell takes many forms, it is not always an actual jail, you could be roaming the streets of one of the most beautiful cities in the world feeling like a prisoner when a simple phone could be the change you need.

I do not mean to simplify your problems or the things you are afraid of, but you must master that fear because the only person it is keeping down is you.

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2 Responses to “3-Step Plan to Facing Your Fears”

Ari Koinuma on August 6th, 2008 12:39 pm

That works in terms of dealing with fear stemming from here-and-now situations, but in the long run, I would advise working on the source of the fear, so that you simply don’t become afraid. You can do that either by boosting your self-confidence (solidify your fort) or cognitive-behavioral therapy (rewrite the script).

ari
Jackie on August 10th, 2008 12:49 pm

Sometimes it is easier to avoid what you are afraid of but once you see that things will not be that bad or that you can actually do something about it, then you have the opportunity to move forward.

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